theories on different types of love
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Below are theories on different types of love. Rubin's book, Liking and Loving, explains the similarities and differences between to the two emotions. Hatfield expressed the idea of companionate love verses passionate love. Lee described the three primary love styles in his book, The Colors of Love, and Sternberg founded his triangular theory of love.
Rubin - Liking vs. Loving - Love has three elements - Attachment - Desire to be with each other, physical contact, approval - Caring - Put the other person before you; sacrifice yourself for the sake of the other person - Intimacy - Bond between individuals, connection - Liking is only when we think the person earns our respect, good morals
Hatfield - Companionate vs. passionate love - Passionate Love - Longing to be with the other, physiological aroused - Can be positive, if both feel the same way, or negative, if one disagrees - Companionate Love - Affection for those who we are close to - Both partners must have the same feelings towards each other for this kind of love to work and be positive - Passionate love and companionate love both existing in the same relationship may be impossible
Lee - Color wheel of love styles - Three primary love styles - Eros- Love an ideal person - Ludus- Love as a game - Storge- Love as a friendship - These primary loves can combine to one another to make different secondary loves - Eros + Ludus will equal Mania or obsessive love - Ludus + Storge will equal Pragma pr realistic and practical love - Eros + Storge will equal Agape or dutiful and selfless love - There are also nine more possible loves that are made by combining primary loves to secondary loves
Sternberg - Triangle theory of love - Three components to love - Intimacy - Sharing thoughts, emotions, stories, communication - Passion - Sexually aroused, attraction - Commitment - Maintain relationship, nourish loving feelings - When all are present they will make consummate love - Hardly ever happens - Usually only one or two components are strongly emphasized in a relationship - Also the some components can become weaker and others can become stronger to change the type of relationship or love Click here for a cool quiz on Sternberg's Love Scale
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